Are you listening?
May 10, 2018 | by kateb | 0 comments
The knowledge we have as women in regard to wellbeing and what it involves, directly affects not only the state of our own health and happiness, but the state of health in our children and in our families.
It is knowledge (wisdom) that for generations was handed down from one to the next and built upon as we evolved. Yet through more recent generations, this knowledge has been questioned and eroded, even dismissed and so much so, it's now very difficult to know what is right and what is not?
Deep down, I believe we do know.
I see it in the women I work with who want to find the answers they know are there to help overcome their childrens health issues, who are suffering and who want to safeguard their future. I know because I've been there to. It feels hard to trust our inner voice, gently guiding us to take a road that's less travelled, and the one we instinctively know is what our families need.
It's an uncertainty that's born from a modern, industrialised culture that's taught us to rely on convenience for answers and to deflect responsibility for our own wellbeing to others, to the experts who 'know better'. And often they do know better on a physical or theoretical sense, however, we cannot dismiss the incredible emotional connection and knowing we have as Mothers for our families needs.
'The bond between mothers and their children is a spiritual force that can never be broken. Mothers know their children better than anyone else can or ever will... A mother's gut instinct overrides all clinical systems set in place to diagnose children' ~ Anthony William, Author, Medical Medium.
When we trust this knowing (our intuition or our 'gut') and we begin to be more curious, to ask questions, we find answers.
However, in our busy modern lives, we don't have the time or space to listen to this maternal instinct, this inner knowing, let alone trust it. To trust what our families need.
Disconnected from this knowing leaves us feeling confused, overwhelmed or unsure.
There's a great quote I heard a few years ago...
‘Our children are our future. Take care of our children, and the future takes care of itself’.
However I know now, this isn’t quite right. Rather - I’ve extended it to:
‘Our children are our future. Nourish the hearts of our women who nourish our children and the future takes care of itself’
As mothers and parents our energy is contagious. When we’re happy, they’re happy.
And this from the late Jim Rohn, Entrepreneur, Author and Motivational Speaker…
‘Your own self-development and wellbeing is the greatest gift you can give to your children. Not self sacrifice. Self development. Self sacrifice earns contempt. Self development and investment earns respect. The best contribution anyone can do for anyone else is their own personal development. If parents multiply their own personal value what will that do for their children? ‘
It's not easy. I know. It's work in progress - me too, (although we're continually work in progress, a journey rather than a destination). Yet there's lots of easy things we can do to learn to trust our intuition.
The first step is to gift ourselves space and time. To look after ourselves.
Try introducing one small thing to begin e.g. it could be as simple as getting up a little earlier to enjoy some quiet or a cup of tea. It could be taking 5 minutes to sit in the sunshine or 10 minutes to chat with a friend or it might be getting to bed a bit earlier. Or perhaps it's chatting to yourself ... more kindly. Whatever you decide, try it, experiment, be curious and when you hear that inner knowing, that excited feeling that comes with 'knowing' ... Listen and Trust.
And if you know you're serious about learning more about how to safeguard your families wellbeing - join me in one of my coaching programs or my very special program, Our Happy Children . A ground breaking, 4 week holistic education program for the whole family, no matter where you're at or how busy you are. We start on the 21st of May, 2018 https://www.katebarnes.com.au/our-happy-children/